In Part One of my three part series on The Sleeping Beauty, we discovered what made Aurora beautiful. She possessed the essence of kindness and femininity. She received the gifts of strength and fortitude, traits all girls need. In every good fairy tale there are characters who are the opposite of good. In Aurora’s story, it is Carabosse, The Fairy of Jealousy, and her minions, Spite and Malice.
Carabosse is as evil as they come. Jealous that she was not invited, she tries to destroy Aurora and the happy festivities surrounding her birth. As I watched this part of the ballet, I was mesmerized as Carabosse, dressed in black with a horned headpiece, danced onto the stage with Spite and Malice. The dancing was harsh, absent of the grace and femininity in the dance of the Fairy of Wisdom.
Haven’t we all been unhappy at one time or another because we longed for what another possesses? The lie in jealousy is there is not enough beauty, smarts, or talents to go around.Therefore, young girls today compare then compete for everything: boys, beauty, friends, and popularity. When in truth, each girl has a unique experience to offer! Just as The Fairy of Jealousy set out to destroy Princess Aurora, jealousy is destroying our girls today. Jealousy leads to bullying which is very common among adolescent girls.
How can we thwart jealousy from disconnecting girls from each other? My own experience as eight year old Kate gives the perfect remedy. I liked my second-grade teacher and the students in my class, except for a girl named Tabitha. She was a bully. She was taller and stronger than I. During recess she would say mean things and boss me around. When I told my mother, she replied that Tabitha must not come from a very nice home. She suggested that I invite her to go to ice-cream with me after school. No way! She had been mean. Why should I be nice to her? But, I followed my mother’s suggestion and invited Tabitha to ice-cream. We had a great time! She was fun! I initiated an honest talk about how friends should treat each other and after that she was kind. She even stuck up for me when other kids were not very nice. We didn’t play together often, but at least she smiled when she saw me. I felt much happier.
What a perfect example of how love and kindness eliminated jealousy and bullying. Eight year old Kate was assertive and gave Tabitha the chance for a positive experience. She did not lash out with more unkindness; nor did she allow herself to be mistreated. She told her mom who was able to offer wisdom and support. Healthy Transitions for Girls gives girls skills to handle these kinds of problems.
The Fairy of Wisdom stopped Caraboose from killing Aurora, but not before she imposed a curse upon her. At age 16, Princess Aurora succumbs to the curse, falling into a deep sleep until she receives her true love’s kiss. In the end, Carabosse loses to the Fairy of Wisdom.
The moral of the story? All in all, wisdom beats jealousy every time. Let’s #lovethegirl by giving her the gift of Wisdom.
We can’t leave Princess Aurora sleeping….find out what happens in Part III.